2 Jul 2014

Some Things I Have Learned Recently Pt 2

My first 'some things I have learned recently' post can be read by following this link.  When I wrote it I can remember feeling refreshed, cleansed almost, because I really felt I'd learned those things first hand.  In the months that followed I had what can only be described as one the best times of my life.  Living in Melbourne, I built up a pretty rad life for myself from literally nothing.  Far from perfect of course, but for the first time in my life I think I really mastered 'living in the moment', and not worrying about things that I can't control.

My past few months back in the UK have also taught me a thing or two, and here they are.

Good things take time, and will only come to those who keep trying and never give up.  If you want something you are going to have to work for it.  It's no good moaning, wishing and waiting.  The world doesn't owe you anything.  Waiting is a loser's game.  Get up, get out, focus on your goals and work hard.

If you don't ask you don't get.  Melbourne taught me that I'm actually really good at talking to people, and it's a skill I plan to keep practicing.  It's truly amazing how far being a bit cheeky and just asking can get you.  So if you want something, just ask for it!

If you wish things were different all you need to do is do something different.  This relates a lot to the last point.  It never ceases to amaze me how much people moan that nothing changes, yet they never actually make any changes themselves however big or small.  Don't make excuses, don't sit well within the limits of your comfort zone.  If you're not happy, don't wait for something different - do something different.  Again, the world doesn't owe you anything.

Rather than searching for 'the one', it's better to focus on being 'the one'.  In my experience I've found that if you concentrate on being the best version of yourself and living your happiest life, equally great people will find their way to you and stick around.  The ones that sadly turn out to be not so great soon filter away - as long as you don't forget to respect yourself.